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Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/26/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am the loving life I am creating for myself as I continue to enjoy adventuring and succeeding throughout my way! I am the success I am creating for myself as I continue to enjoy progressing and learning throughout my way! I am the bliss I am creating for myself as I continue to enjoy my way…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/25/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I believe in being stronger when dealing with challenging issues and problematic concerns for positive affecting outcomes! I believe in having faith and being optimistic when dealing with situations and interactions for positive affecting outcomes! I continue believing in achieving greater positive affecting outcomes with strength, faith, and optimism…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros

Pointing Fingers

Unconsciousness is only supported by unconsciousness and because of the subtleness of unconscious energy this results in pointing fingers at others without the ability to truly look at yourself.

The Conditioned Mind supports unconscious energy and whatever spin one puts on it, this energy only allows you to point the finger at others. I knew when I posted the article yesterday afternoon on my timeline it was going to activate many triggers which would lead to name calling and finger pointing. All I did was post that I did not support the dividing energy of what NFL players where doing before each game; I chose to not watch the games. I was called a fraud amongst other things which doesn’t really bother me because the source of the name calling and finger pointing is from the unconscious energy that is destroying our society and planet. There’s very little understanding of what the Conditioned Mind is so there are many fingers that point at others along with other associated unconscious behavior. This energy has been in place for eons, it’s why humanity is in the dire straits that it is. This has nothing to do with what is happening, but it does have everything to do with the unconscious energy that one emits and lives by.

I see what is seen and it matters little if it’s agreed with or not. I write that’s it, I never wrote to be anything. If I’m a fraud to you so be it. If what I wrote yesterday or if my previous articles don’t resonate with you, move on. Go and latch onto someone who fits in with your conditioned behavior. I never claimed to be anything, I just write what arises in me. I don’t need to point fingers at people because I see the conditioning for what it, but I will call it as it arises in me. There’s so much energy that’s not only dividing our country, but it’s dividing our entire world, and although you may not agree with what I write, I will always write what arises in me, only because I have to as it is what is seen.

Love From the Heart

You can live from your head, but you can only love from your heart. You don’t love in the past or future, you love in the present because the energy of the heart is from what’s happening now.

If you sit around waiting for the other shoe to drop it will happen because by expecting it, you are giving it the energy it needs to occur. Your projections eventually become your reality. Projections always come from our head, never from our heart. When we love it’s from the heart and that’s the energy we will emit, not the projecting energy of waiting for the other shoe to drop. That doesn’t mean everyone will love us back, although everyone’s heart is of love the Conditioned Mind blocks this from being known. It’s known in the head, but to truly emit love’s energy to others it has to be from the heart; the thought of love isn’t love. Going from the head to the heart is a difficult twelve inch transition and it’s the road less travelled. When the idea of love gets stuck in the head, there’s so much thinking involved and it becomes something other than love. I’m not sure what it becomes, but I do know when I love it strictly comes from my heart.

Projections always come from our head, this creates problems because the mind needs something to do if its not trained to be still. The mind that tries to solve problems is the same mind that creates them. If you make it a problem that the other shoe will drop, it will. You’re not separate from your mind, but sometimes it seems that you are. When you do something and say “why did I do that” the mind that told you to do it is the same mind that is making you question yourself. Nothing ever happens in your mind without your permission so when it’s learned to live from the heart, the head will no longer be in control projecting and waiting for the other shoe to drop. You will then be free to live your life as intended; from the love that is in your heart, instead of the mind made nonsense of what goes on between your ears.

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/24/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I love the peace that I attain whenever I relax my self! I love the bliss I attain whenever I enjoy myself! I love the amusement that I attain whenever I entertain myself! I love the satisfaction that I attain whenever I accomplish and achieve…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Being With What Is

If you’re always trying to arrange things to your liking, it really shouldn’t be a surprise when most of the time things aren’t to your liking. One is truly free when it’s learned to be with what is, not what’s liked.

When listening to the radio and a song starts playing that is disliked, the reaction is to change the station to try and find a song that’s more suitable to one’s liking. This is the subtleness of the Conditioned Mind. It isn’t that you have to put up with things in life that aren’t like, by all means change the station, but understanding exactly why the station is being changed will assist in deciding if it really needs to be changed or not. Not much really changes whether the song is left on or not.

The radio station can be substituted with anything because it’s all arises from the same place; the Conditioned Mind. This time it’s a song, next time it’s a person or situation, but one doesn’t have to be a martyr and remain in their discontentment, once this is recognized, by that alone the attachment to self relinquishes the control it’s be given. This is vital if one is to be free of the subtle attachments created by the Conditioned Mind. The creator of all suffering is linked to some kind of attachment; a clinging to a certain belief that life would be more suitable if it were a certain way. When it’s understood life doesn’t have to be a certain way except in the way that it is that’s when one will be free, and it’s in this freedom that you can do whatever it is you like because it is known that your freedom isn’t dependent on it.

Meandering Thoughts of a Wandering Heart

     Strange are the ways of the heart! One wonders at times, how do you feel after a long spell of unending struggles and how you meander through a mix of amalgamated thoughts. You think and pause and wonder, that ohh, was that worth all the sighs and ahhs, that you put in! Was it really worth it , that you put your heart and soul towards a direction, which at the start of it, looks very attractive and appealing, but once the goals are achieved, the desire to go ahead loses its meaning.
   Your heart meanders through a spiralling wind, where you feel that you have reached square one, from where you have started! The ways of your heart and the ways of your mind are often so intertwined in a complicated manner, that you often as yourself the question, as to , now what?
  It is a strange stalemate, a stalemate which arises out a series of happenings, at a feverish pace and ultimately those things happen, which you fear that , this day would come, at the end of the tunnel.
But, then you sit back and understand, that this is what the entire entangled situation was about. It was a mingled  set of activities, which were a need of the hour and when you try to look back a re-evaluate and ponder over them, then you realise that all the work was required and after as long hiatus, one needs to sit back and take rest.
  Life has a strange melancholic way of rushing at a fast pace and suddenly when certain goals are achieved, it suddenly slows down and takes a meandering course of flow, just as lazy river, which is going to reach the sea! Little does the river realize that once it reaches its threshold, it will mingle with an entirely different attitude, a different identity.
   Life is like that , when you venture out as a young person, you are alive and full of aspirations, so desirous of getting what you want, but in its entirety, do you realize , what is actually substantial. What is actually what you want out of it. This is one thing, which most of the women and men, fail to realise, one just goes on and on, some feel , that this is life, some fee that , that is life, but how many really know what actually life is and what is a persons aim.
   Dreams are always the driving force behind whatever one wants to do, but does one ever ask your own self, that what the heart wants from you, what is actually the inner desire?
  You will be surprised that mostly the answer will be a assertive no. Then where is this world running to and what are the actually  seeking in Life.is it gay abandon, is it freedom, is it a goal, well the answer lies in your heart and soul and only those who discover, what their heart wants, realize the real worth of life.
  Our thoughts are just like waves in the sea, where the desires of the heart meanders and veers us in a direction of fulfilment and intonation and that is how I rate my state of mind at present.
One should know how to control ones heart, with the sheer power of the mind and once the heart is controlled, so is your Life! 

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/23/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am taking challenges head-on without hesitation because I am motivated and optimistic for desirable outcomes! I am overcoming obstacles directly without a doubt because I am determined and confident to succeed to where I desire to be! I am succeeding with determination, motivation, confidence, and optimism…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros

A Story of Love



          Marriage begins with great love, joy and happiness. It begins with a vow of faithfulness, a promise to love our spouse until we die. With all hopefulness, couples begin their new lives together, expecting to love one another through all the challenges that life may bring. Unfortunately, about half of marriages eventually end in divorce, a devastating experience for both spouses and their children. The loss of love affects us deeply. Many members of a family, who experience a divorce, carry the scars for life. When unfaithfulness is the cause of divorce, it can leave even more profound wounds from which many do not fully recover. Feelings of betrayal and shattered trust are often carried into future relationships. After the shock and disillusionment, a natural response to unfaithfulness is anger. It is a justifiable anger that expresses our unfathomable disappointment for a trust that has been crushed. Have you experienced the unfaithfulness of someone who you loved?

On numerous occasions, scripture uses unfaithfulness in marriage as an analogy to express the disloyalty of man to a God who loves us immeasurably. When God makes a covenant with man, it is often compared to a marriage vow. It is an eternal promise, and when God makes a promise, He is never unfaithful. One example, which illustrates God’s faithfulness to an unfaithful people, is found in the Book of Hosea. The tribe of Ephraim led the 10 northern tribes of Israel in a revolt against the two southern tribes of Judah. It was one of the northern kingdom’s wives, Jezebel, who introduced the worship of Baal and caused the people to abandon God. Hosea lived decades later, during the time when Israel was about to be overtaken by the Assyrians. Hosea warned Israel of impending destruction, if they did not repent and return to the love of God, but they did not heed the warnings. Assyria would soon attack Israel and the people would be taken into captivity and exiled from their land. The 10 tribes would eventually be scattered among other nations.   

The prophet, Hosea, begins his story by recounting his own experience. God commanded him to marry a prostitute. Yes, that’s right, a prostitute. Through Hosea, we are given insights into the fidelity of God’s love for us. Hosea relates how he felt when his wife was unfaithful as he expresses God’s disappointment in His peoples’ disloyalty. At first, Hosea conveys God’s anger: “I will put an end to all her mirth…And I will lay waste her vines and her fig trees…the beasts of the field shall devour them...And I will punish her for the feast days of the Ba′als…when she…went after her lovers, and forgot me” (Hosea 2:11-13).

Although God expressed His anger in Israel’s unfaithfulness, God is a loving God. Hosea 11:8-9 beautifully articulates God’s compassion for Israel: 

How can I make you like Admah! (one of the cities destroyed near Sodom)
    How can I treat you like Zeboi′im!
(another city destroyed near Sodom)
My heart recoils within me,
    my compassion grows warm and tender. 

I will not execute my fierce anger,
    I will not again destroy E′phraim;
for I am God and not man,
    the Holy One in your midst,
    and I will not come to destroy.
 

Hosea also has compassion for his unfaithful wife. Throughout his account, Hosea relates the depth of understanding he developed about unfaithfulness through his own experience. He eventually redeems his wife by buying her back out of slavery. In His infinite mercy, God could not allow the destruction of Israel. Instead, Assyria removed the 10 tribes from their land, some in captivity and others in exile. The remnants would eventually make homes throughout the nations of the Middle East and along the Mediterranean. Instead of destroying the northern tribes, God scattered them to await a future time of redemption.

God would send His Son to redeem His people, to die for Israel, Judah and all of mankind. His love for us, even in our unfaithfulness, is so overwhelming, that He chose to become a man like us to demonstrate His own faithfulness toward us. God’s covenant is a promise to love us eternally. Those who choose to love Christ will rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb (Christ) has come, and his Bride (Christ’s Church) has made herself ready; it was granted her to be clothed with fine linen, bright and pure” (Revelation 19:7-8). The Church is made pure through the blood Jesus shed on the cross. His perfect sacrifice has washed away our unfaithfulness. Through the mercy and compassion of Christ, we are able to present ourselves as a faithful bride, who is forgiven of every sin. 
  


© 2017  Helen Kamenos  All rights reserved



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I Focused Stories

A story always needs a subject to focus on to be created. We supply the subject of all our stories when our focus is on the base of I. Without I, our innate divinity sustains itself naturally without the need for a story.

The subtitle of my book “You Are Not Your Thoughts” could have been You Are Not Your Stories. How attached one is to their stories is related to how disconnected one is to their divinity within. Every made up story is related to I and the more I controls, the less one is in alignment with their divinity. Just think about how the stories occur, when there’s traffic, who’s in the traffic? When there’s an individual who passes by and there’s an attraction, who is attracted to them? How about dessert, when it’s time for dessert, who is craving the desire to be satisfied? When anything is wanted, who is the individual who is wanting? All these questions have one answer in common, they’re all derived from I and it’s I who is the creator of all the stories. I want this or I want that, I don’t like this, I want this different, I want, I want, I want, all this wanting is just a story that keeps one from experiencing their own divinity.

Without I wanting is to be without a story and without the story there will be enough quietness to hear the divine urging within that is one’s true innate calling. The difference between one’s thoughts and one’s divinity is thoughts create a story that needs I to believe I am my thoughts and then the Conditioned Mind creates a story from these thoughts, but the story isn’t you as your thoughts aren’t you. It all begins with the attachment to I which makes you think your thoughts are who you are. Don’t attach I to your thoughts and it will be impossible to create an I story.

The divine always occurs in the present moment, why this isn’t known by more people is because of the attachment to I created stories. The divine is not a story, it’s divine. It doesn’t need a story, it always is. It’s the human development of I that doesn’t make this known. Anyone who has any inkling of truth in their life has at least minimized the attachment to I. It’s the only way for one to get quiet enough to realize “You Are Not Your Thoughts” and in the process there’s also the realization you are not your I subjected created stories either.

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/22/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am treating others respectfully and kindly just as I desire to be treated likewise in return toward benefiting my life, my relationships, and my interactions! I am treating others appreciatively just as I desire to be treated likewise in return toward greater moments, greater days, and greater success! I am treating myself with greater love and gratefulness…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

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An Established Anchor

An anchor needs to be established so there’s a place one can return to when the merry go round mind is leading the charge. This is a place where it’s safe and secure away from the insanity of one’s own mind.

I was discussing meditation with a friend and we agreed that so many people have difficulty with it. Recently there was a study done where the subjects had a choice to pick electric shock therapy or sit in a empty room for fifteen minutes. Obviously everyone picked sitting in a room. After all how hard can that be? After the experiment, they asked the subjects if they had the choice again which would they pick, they all said the electric shock therapy. I find this astonishing, but I also understand the misconception of meditation and why this is so. It’s because so many people don’t truly investigate what mediation actually is and what it does. I can tell you this, it’s not magic, but I would like to share my thoughts on meditation which I refer to as simply sitting.

The first thing to do is establish an anchor. Everyone who is alive has some kind a place that is called home where the day starts and most times it ends. Even a homeless person has some kind of anchor to start the day regardless if it’s under a bridge or in a cardboard box. This anchor is the base which will be used to return to when the mind wanders. As one always returns home, so will the established anchor be used in this way.

In the beginning the mind will wander a lot because of the lack of developed discipline, it has to wander because there is nothing in place to keep it from doing so. The main reason meditation is difficult is because people think it’s something to do. One will never ever quiet the mind, it’s something that occurs on its own. This is probably the biggest misconception, that it’s something that can be done. Well the bad news is it can’t, but the good news is discipline can be established to allow the mind to settle. It will just take take time and perseverance to allow this. One sits, the mind wanders, one returns to whatever the established anchor is, the breath is such an anchor. As this is done over and over, the mind wanders less and less.

The benefit of this is when the mind begins to settle, there’s an awareness that at least for me allowed the reaching outside myself for my answers to stop. Once the reaching stopped, I started looking inward and life started to become different. This difference is in my view of life and how it has changed in a most beautiful way. But like I said, its not magic and the most important part of establishing any form of discipline is one will get out of it exactly what’s put into it.

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/21/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am moving forward as I need to! I am continuing as I should! I am proceeding as I want! No quitting on my dreams! No giving up on my success! Not letting go of my goals! Accomplishing, achieving, and contributing to greater moments, a greater day, and greater future…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Unity of the Heart

The Conditioned Mind which is based in noise, constantly tries to create a world that makes you think you need to be happy. This created noise blocks one from seeing their own innate goodness.

Creation occurs without permission so when it’s understood that we are a manifestation of Universal Energy and not much else really matters, the mind settles enough to see creation not as a mind made concept, but as its true intention to simply love. The only thing that keeps one in a state of unawareness to this love is their own mind. Stillness breeds truth, truth breeds freedom, freedom breeds clarity and clarity breeds stillness.

One day we are in this form and one day just like that we are not. How one is spending their time in this current form is their life. If it’s to serve self there will never be quietness and it will be very difficult to see truth and experience peace. If it’s to love creation from the heart and soul, there will be a quietness that will allow an inner peace to be discovered and one will be in unity with all beings. There may not be unity in return, but that’s someone else’s conditioning. Your own unity with creation is what’s important and how this unity will be known is by how settled the mind is. Unity comes from the heart not the mind, so our unity with each other is from love and there is only separation from this in the delusional world of thought.

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/20/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I believe in striving for greater possibilities to benefit my life, my relationships, and my career! I believe in striving for a better future that benefits myself, my loved ones, and everyone striving for the same! I believe in striving with love, with optimism, and with positivity…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Agitated Distractions

A distraction causes a person to reach for something because the mind is in a state of agitation. Distractions block the ability to live a life aligned with the love that’s in your heart.

Distractions are what the ego uses in the form of conditioning for its fuel; it needs energy to survive. It uses the past and future energies because in the present moment there’s only the energy of what is. What each and every distraction does is remove the ability to remain in the present moment so there can be an alignment with one’s true essence of what is. The objects used are what needs to be identified so one doesn’t give in to their magnetic pull because without the awareness that these distractions exist, their pull is to enticing not to give in to it; even with awareness it’s still very difficult not to give in. The mind will need to be very quiet to become aware of this and not give in to these subtle distractions. The nature of all distractions are the same, but they themselves manifest differently. It’s their nature to take you from the present moment so when you’re not present that’s how it will be known you’re being distracted.

A distraction is not the same as an agitation, they’re similar, but an agitation is what causes the need for a distraction to arise. If the mind was quiet without agitation there wouldn’t be a distraction. To be without distractions one must learn to be with their agitations so it quiets; without an agitation our distractions wouldn’t be. When distractions are non existent, the only thing that remains is quietness or if it’s preferred, peace. So the understanding of this is where one will experience peace, but don’t expect the ego to cooperate because to be without distractions is to be free of the egos control. It has been my experience that the ego doesn’t go away, but it does quiet down as long as it’s not given the energy to create agitated distractions.

Being An Enemy Of The Nation Is A Virtue In India (At Least For Writers And Scribes Etc.)

My Country, India, is a bizarre and quirky nation of many paradoxes. My personal opinion is that the excessive amount of freedom that is enjoyed by the citizens is the underlying cause for all these incongruities and anomalies. I will give a case study as an example.

The snuffing out of a human life is always deplorable beyond words, but these unfortunate things do happen all over the world. My nation is no different. But what surprised me were the hordes of frenzied and mad people raising hell like nobody's business, when a lady with a very strange name that I found difficult to even pronounce, let alone remember, was unfortunately killed by some miscreants. She was eventually laid to rest with full state honors, something that even martyred soldiers do not get in our country. I asked my friends as to what were the achievements of this unheralded and totally unknown person, but nobody had a clue, just like me. It was after a lot of research on the internet that I found out as to what the deceased person's claim to immortality was. She was a die-hard Anti-National and a rabid Hindu-basher (The majority community of India).

Herein lies the anomaly, the paradox. In order to be considered to be an intellectual, or a scribe, or a writer of consequence by the intelligentsia of India, one needs to be all or one of the following three i.e. Enemy of the Nation of India, Enemy of the Majority Community of India, and Supporter of Secessionists and Terrorists of all hues and colors and also a sympathizer to them, as well as all nations who support terrorists as part of their state policy. Whew!!!

This is what comes from too much freedom. Freedom to throw stones at your own soldiers in uniform, freedom to openly air Antinational, secessionist, pro-terrorist, pro-anarchist views, freedom to piss on the road, freedom to spit anywhere etc. etc.

Well, I am neither an Enemy of the Nation of India, or an Enemy of the Hindu Community, or a Terror/ Separatist Sympathizer. BUT I STILL DARE TO CALL MYSELF A WRITER. DO I HAVE THE RIGHT TO DO THIS?

YESS!!! I HAVE THE RIGHT TO DO SO !!!! But then HOW???? You may like to ask as to what is the reason behind your apparent overconfidence?

It is just because of this little fact that being an enemy of the nation of India, and being an enemy of the world's oldest surviving civilisation and one of the most evolved cultures in the world, i.e. Hinduism, and being a terrorist and secessionist sympathizer, all cease to become 'virtues', once we cross the boundaries of this strange nation of India, and the polluted, twisted, and the hideous mindset that resides there.

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Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/19/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
"I am striving to be that much more better for myself, for my life, and for my future... My success depends upon me! I am striving to be that much more happier for myself, for my relationships, and for my loved ones! I am striving to be that much more willing for myself, for my purpose, and for my service..."
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros

External Influences

A person can only see what they’ve been influenced by and what influences you is limited by the books you read and whatever else is attached to from external sources.

The issue some have with my writings is because they aren’t from something they’ve read or some other external source that influenced their conditioned view. The understanding of life through a book or what others teach is very limiting because one becomes influenced only from that external source. You can only truly see what’s in the heart when that view is in place; influences are from the external. This is just the way it is. It’s from the silence of the heart that life’s real lessons are learned. The Universe is the best teacher, but there has to be stillness in place that allows one to hear it’s silence.

For whatever reason I’ve been given insights to the workings of how the Conditioned Mind is the cause of all suffering, not because of some outside influence, but because I have developed stillness that allowed my mind to settle enough so the influenced distractions of the external aren’t being attached to. This allows the silence of the Universe to be my teacher. It matters little if what I see is seen by others. Jesus and the Buddha among many others saw things others did not, that didn’t deter them. I write to share with others what has been bestowed upon me, whether it is seen by others is not a concern. One changes inwardly when the Universe does the changing. I would suggest if anyone truly wants to learn why they think and do what they do is to find their inner. place of stillness. This is invaluable if one wants to break free from the external influences of the Conditioned Mind to hear the teachings of silence offered by the Universe.

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/18/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am staying firm with what I enjoy doing with my life for my life with others and for others! I am staying strong for my success with purpose, conviction, and a positive mental attitude! I am staying faithful with the willingness to protect and defend my beliefs, my values, my principles, my purpose, and my happiness …”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Ignoring Life

There is a choice in every moment that occurs which solely puts your life in your hands. If you don’t have awareness of this, you will be controlled unconsciously by what occurs without a choice.

Being in touch with what occurs in each moment of your life is living life as it unfolds without excluding any part of it. It’s easy to ignore what’s not wanted, but to include everything even though it may not be wanted is truly living. If something wants to be excluded find out what it is and why it’s not wanted. Obviously on the surface it would look as though it’s just not liked, but if it’s occurring, what good does it do ignoring it: ignoring then becomes a defense mechanism that keeps you from truly enjoying life. If you only enjoy life when what’s happening is going your way, there will be much suffering because of the way life changes. If you go on a vacation to a tropical island and it’s raining, therein lies your suffering; if it’s sunny everything is deemed great. This is but one example, I’m sure you can find your own that fits your current life.

In the situation described, why it causes suffering is because what’s occurring is being ignored, maybe not consciously, but it’s not wanted so it causes a mind agitation. The thing about this is the rain is totally out of your control, there’s nothing you can do to change it, meaning you can’t change the weather. Well you could do a Sun Dance, but I doubt that will work, so you will either be with life as it is or you will continue to ignore it by wanting it different. These are the choices that occur in every moment and it solely puts your life in your hands. It has nothing to do with anyone else or life circumstances, but if you don’t have awareness of this, you will continue to ignore life as unwanted situations arise. That is until one day when there will be nothing to ignore because life in this form will be no more.

Today Self~Empower Self-Communicate – 09/17/17~

Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:

Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!

“I am continuing to acknowledge, accept, and reflect upon my past for experience and education necessary to continue my success with a positive attitude! I am remaining optimistic about my progress, about my outcomes, and about my circumstances to continue my success! I am not allowing negative thoughts to adversely affect my situations for worse, but constructively help me learn, improve, and progress…”

to continue a greater life!

Great day to you, as a great day continues~

Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

The Married Indian Man!

   An Indian Man is loathed, hated, criticised, mud-slinged and battered, from all corners, when it comes to their mental attitudes and behaviour patterns towards their better halves!
   But, if you look at those poor specimens, in the light of a sane and rational person, then you will understand, they are at the receiving end at all times! After a satisfied phase of a good five or six of years of marital bliss, astonishingly, their wives, turn around and become possessive, demanding and overbearing , once they enter their homes.These are those cute little wives who have acquired this explosive demeanour after shedding shy and docile garb, of quiet newly wed brides!
   He has to listen to her and agree to her and understand all her thoughts, at the drop of a hat!He is expected to be the most romantic husband, with a smiling face 24/7 and at the same time he should be available for the kids , no matter what professional commitments he has. Women are no doubt burdened with home care and have unending responsibilities, but that does not mean that they should feel , that the poor little husband , just goes and breaks chairs in the office the whole day!
  The most common squabbles between husbands and wives these days are, " You don't understand my feelings!" I mean, what kind of an attitude is this. How can a couple, who were otherwise, so lovey dovey and over the moon with a sparkle in their eyes, when they got married and suddenly the wife  feels that the husband doesn't love her. Why does she feel so insecure and keeps a tab on her husbands movement like a "eagle", does on its prey?
   Well the answer lies in the fact that , have the couple maintained  the spark, the fire, which started it all and sadly the answer is no, none of the husbands in India take the initiative to create a strong foundation of marriage and keep rekindling the romantic spark, which as times passes, fades away and that is the reason of all the divorces and broken homes!
   My purpose of writing this blog was not a philosophical one, where I wanted to explain the Indian wives to understand their husbands, but I wanted to highlight the plight of the common Indian husband who quietly suffers and squirms with frustration and resorts to chat sites for fulfilment.
   There is an underlying dissatisfaction, a built up frustration, which can be explosive and the worst part is that the poor fellows, themselves don't know about it! Men are as emotional and sensitive as women, they are just so wrapped around these barbed wires of the so- called "mardangi", that they fail to understand, their own desires and when years of suppression, becomes  unbearable, then they come to the forefront as betrayals, incompatibilities and battered egos, which break homes and hearts at the same time.
   An Indian married man is as rational, sane and balanced, as any other man of the world and the need of the hour is, that they should take charge of their lives and understand their inner desires and make sure to get what they want, from their respective spouses and understand that , their continuous suppression of their desires, will lead them no where!
  There is no point in living a hushed up  existence, or having a dual life, online, or having clandestine affairs under wraps! Ultimately it will harm not only their existence, but it will be destructive for all of those  important relationships, they have in actuality!
  So, live life the way you want to, without suppressing your inner desires and thoughts and if social stigmas and other relationships are marring your present, then stand up and take charge, take charge of your lives, in a way, that makes a difference to only  your outlook towards life, but also makes its quality better and not buckle under the stress of your professional life.
  As, one works for his family and strives to make a better life and doesn't let work take the centre stage and destroy all that he has ever dreamt to make for his life and for others associated with it!
  Hats off to you my dear "Indian married man", way to go!