Grasping gives an arising event control, leaning into it puts the control basically in your hands, not with what occurs, but with how it affects you. Leaning allows life support.
Leaning into what happens in the present moment doesn’t result in an “oh well that’s just the way it is” attitude, the leaning allows freedom to be with it whole heartedly. It’s in our judgements of the present moment that causes resistive energy that wants the moment different and because of the Conditioned Mind, it wants every one of those moments to be pleasurable. There’s no leaning in this, it’s a straight up stand for wanting the moment to be a certain way. One of the biggest misunderstandings of what it means to be spiritual is that it’s linear and it’s takes you to something better. Granted it takes you to something different, but not something necessarily better. It will drag you through the mud so to speak until it’s learned to not to be dragged, but this doesn’t change what happens, it only changes how what happens is dealt with.
Look at it as if the mind is a flame from a candle, when there’s a breeze, the flame will flicker, this is what a mind agitation is like. Without a breeze the flame is still and so it is with a mind that doesn’t want anything different. There’s no agitation in this space so it’s basically just leaning on what’s happening instead of giving it unnecessary energy to cause some kind of conditioned havoc. Each moment will arise and depending on the view, it can be leaned on or grasped. Grasping gives the arising event control, leaning puts the control basically in your hands, not with what occurs, but with how it affects you. Leaning allows support, grasping doesn’t, as it’s in the leaning itself where life becomes our support.