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Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
"I am persisting for blissful experiences today, tomorrow, and every day beyond that! I am insisting on giving, receiving, and sharing all the good stuff right now, later, and every moment beyond that! I am not resisting my adventures, my excitement, my bliss, and my ideas..."
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author
The deeper stillness is as our foundation, the more love will be emanated in our life, and obviously the more love we have the more can be given. Also the deeper the stillness, the less our conditioning is in control. Go to the depth not known and go to a place of purity, but this will take a tremendous amount of understanding of why we aren’t in this way already. The transformation that occurs with this understanding from our head to our heart will determine the depth of our love. It’s essential to get to the heart, but without stillness we remain stuck in the head.
I’ve seen this played out first hand in my life and when love comes from the head it benefits no one. It’s the heart of love that’s pure, the head is usually filled with some mind made concept of love; there are many conditions put on this type of love. This is the cause of the flip flopping between the head and heart. The lack of stillness creates a flip flop foundation so our emotions are very easily swayed by things, and the things that sway us are allowed to occur because our emotions are that of an immature child. Why else are we swayed when things don’t go our way? Does not a child act in the same manner? Do not we as adults, act in the same manner of stamping our feet when we don’t get our way?
The purity of a child is different than the immature emotions of a child, so learn to go deeper than what the surface supplies you with and you will see a level of maturity not previously known. When this does become known, your life will be much more stable because you won’t be so easily swayed by the nonsense the world provides as a foundation. And with a solid and mature foundation based in stillness which is beyond what happens on the surface, flip flopping ceases and from the love of the heart is how life is lived.
Many people are on a spiritual quest to find an answer and for me this was in the form the question why was I so discontented with life. I say was because the discontent is no longer there. For far to many years I didn’t truly understand this discontent and so it was always there as was the searching to quiet it. This searching manifested in many different ways and none were beneficial in living my life in a loving manner. This is because of the way I was conditioned, to self seek (quiet the discontent) which kept the it in place. What a ride this produced, hence there wasn’t much peace in my life. This lasted for forty nine years and then one day through a tiny crack in my ego there arose the possibility of a different view of life, which was revealed to me and gave me some real answers as to the true nature of my inner discontent.
Ten years ago what began as a crack has been expanding ever since. For the most part the discontent for peace is no longer there because it has been replaced with a simple quietness, but when the mind becomes agitated, the discontent does return because of the Conditioned Mind Patterns in place; I’ve learned to see it from the I perspective and not attach to them. Only attachment to I keeps the discontent in place so one has to search instead of there being peace. The search for peace will never result in peace because the search itself is what keeps one from experiencing peace. In this moment right now is where peace resides so there’s no need to search for what already is. It’s only when the mind settles and I is let go of that the inner discontent subsides and lo and behold it is then that one will be at peace.
Death is a part of life as much as life itself is and regardless of any belief, one day this body will cease to support life in the form that it occupies today. We can make up a place spiritually that we are going to go to when we die, but the body is going to become void of life and it will either be cremated, decay in a box six feet below ground or in a vault above ground. If this one truth can be understood than nothing else would truly matter because the impermanence of all things would be known, and once the truth of impermanence is known, life takes on an entirely different dynamic and a mundane view no longer exists.
There’s nothing needed for fulfillment when this dynamic takes hold because one realizes life is already fulfilled. How can it not be with the understanding that all you need you already have because all that you have has no lasting substance to it. If everything is impermanent including life itself nothing will bring fulfillment to life except the understanding that life’s already fulfilled. Everything reached for in life is used as a temporary fix strictly to fulfill some inner craving, this is the reason why one is never truly satisfied. If there wasn’t a craving to be fulfilled, there wouldn’t be a need for a temporary fix. To me this is why impermanence has so much value because when it’s understood, the craving for fulfillment is replaced with a satisfaction that whatever happens next doesn’t matter much because one day whenever that day may be, what’s next will prove just how impermanent life really is.
There was a FB discussion yesterday with a woman who says she occasionally uses drug because she likes the way they make her feel. Sure it feels good, why else do it? It’s not for me to label this as anything, all I know is for me giving in to the barrage of what’s liked thoughts keeps the I Self conditioning in place which keeps one in the bondage and prison to I. It’s one thing to get caught in a flare up of selfish behavior, it’s another thing to consciously even though it’s done unconsciously, keep the self satisfying conditioning in place. The human mind can justify anything and this is a daily occurrence for most, but until this is seen the bondage to I will remain.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with doing something that’s liked, but there are differences and what they are is most are selfish to fill some inner lack, but some arise from a deep place of stillness for the betterment of others. Reaching out for anything to fulfill a self satisfying need is purely selfish and it’s at the core of most things reached for; no matter how good it makes you feel. Someone once told me they enjoyed smoking cigarettes and they probably do, but except for satisfying a selfish desire, what benefit is there to smoking? It’s strictly done to satisfy self. Millions do this all the time with an array of things, alcohol, gambling, food, drugs, sex, helping others and so on, but until it’s seen that if one needs to use something to alter the way that they feel which is always derived from selfishness, the conditioned bondage to self remains in place. Check this for yourself or not, but it’s a truth that won’t be seen as long as the Conditioned Mind is in control and this is because it will justify the selfish reaching in some way.
Just be silent and all will work itself out. To me there’s a silent phenomenon about life that’s hard to put into words, it has to do with how everything will pass regardless of what happens, but the silence is always there. It’s been this way and will continue this way forever. Even if for some reason there was no more Earth, the Universe wouldn’t miss a beat, existence in whatever form would still be. This is what makes life so strange, it just does its thing regardless of what humanity does; humanity is just one part. All the noise, greed, hate, and delusion only mean something to a noisy mind, it means nothing to the Universe. There was a study done on what would happen if humanity became extinct and the result was life on earth would simply go on, just not for man. This silent phenomenon of life is what most of us are searching for, but the reason it’s not revealed is because there’s not enough silent space to experience it.
To live in this silence is where everything works out, not because it’s the way you want it to be, but because it’s the way it is. The value of being silent isn’t given enough attention by the individual or the collective in today’s society. Life is mostly looked at as a doing (noise) and this is constantly reinforced. Most people don’t have the tools to be silent so it’s fleeting at best. When of the mind the mind causes suffering. If silent on can not suffer because there’s no mind agitations causing it. One has to be just as ok with perfect disease as with perfect health for there to be silence. Only when silent will it be seen that everything will work itself out and that’s because there’s no wanting anything different.
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Writing in different genres is a challenge and an interesting one. Life is diverse; there is so much to say, so many ways to say it. It is impossible to put all I have to say in one category. It may work for some writers; it doesn't work for me. Christian fiction contemporary is my main genre, but there are more than one sub-genre, like thriller and suspense, cosy and light entertainment, religious and spiritual, and most stories have a little bit of romance and a little bit of crime included. Woman abuse, drug abuse, wealth and poverty, moral and immoral and religious atrocities are among the topics most of my books are about. My first book is in Afrikaans, a compilation of short stories about people indulging in a hazardous life style, then being confronted with the Saviour and have to make a decision to follow or reject Him.
My first book in English, "My Father's Will" is a cosy light entertainment, the next, a novella, "The Bigger Fish" is a tween about students and their challenges, like drug abuse and behavioural issues that stem from sexual abuse during childhood; the next, soon to be released, is about sixty-somethings and their challenges, hopes and concerns, followed by another light entertainment, "Late Summer Lily", followed by another light entertaining story, "Man in a Picture" but not so cosy, with a bit of historic moments and lots of deep emotion. Then comes a love, hate and murder story, "Deadly Innocent" I co-wrote with my husband. Another story currently half-way to completion, "Seagull's Prey", is about murder, deceit, corruption and big-time gangsterism. I am also busy creating my "big story", a sort of end-time, religious, conspiracy thriller titled "The god of these Times" that will be a full length novel and might overflow into a series.
Besides the fiction books, I write about hospice, the work they do, funding and donations given to them and the stories of their patients. I write these accounts for the Stellenbosch Hospice Facebook Page. I am currently working on a third book, a non-fiction/faction book about death, bereavement and the journey to acceptance and healing which lead to the founding of the Stellenbosch Hospice Butterfly ward.
In time a number of books will, Godwilling, be added.
A number of factors link the genres together. First of all, I write from Christian perspective. All my stories are about Christ, the Saviour and people's reactions to Him. I use the same writer's name for all. The religious thriller might be an exception. Hope and the fact that death is not necessarily to be feared is also factor. Another factor is this one character that pops up in most of my stories: Anton Joubert, the mysterious, seemingly boring man - but behind the scenes - the guy who, in secret, solves many problems, including eliminating evil adversaries by whichever means. Although I have pulled in a little bit of history into a story or two, they are all contemporary.
I have always loved stories. Storytime, as a child, was my favourite time, whether in school, Sunday school or Saturday afternoons when my dad used to gather us kids together and told his own stories, not to mention sitting by the radio every afternoon with my mom to listen to Springbok Radio soaps, the fifteen minute evening regular after the seven 'o clock news, the Wednesday evenings "Klein Teater " and Saturday evenings "Radio Teater". Books played a big role in my life as well. I became a member of the local library at the age of ten. My parents always had books and magazines in the house, enough to read for anyone who wanted to.
At the age of twelve I was so inspired, I decided to write my own story. It was about a ballerina. Many stories followed, but I wrote for my own entertainment and the thought to try to publish never occurred to me. Only after my children flew the nest and my first grandson started school did I begin to write seriously with a vague idea to test the waters for publishing in my mind. I sent my Afrikaans short stories to several magazines and got rejected. Just keep on writing, I convinced myself not to be discouraged. It was about three years later when I found a publisher, that my first book, "Areafees" was published in printed form. Shortly after that, I discovered self-publishing. I published eight stories on Smashwords, including a one page non-fiction piece about mental health and fitness, that is still available for free.
Marketing a book is ten times as difficult as writing it. I investigated many avenues to get my books out there. One way of doing this, was to join writers groups on social media and learn from other writers' experiences. One day a number of writers commented in a threat about publishers, marketing and all the problems around this topic. After my comment that I would join the cow and jump over the moon if I could find a publisher willing to publish my books at no cost on my part. Evan Swensen from Publication Consultants joined the tread with the comment: "Send me your book, I will publish it." Well, long story short, five days later I was ready to join the cow for a jump over the moon. A contract was signed and my book "My Father's Will" was going into production. I unpublished all my books on Smashwords and sent them to Publication Consultants, the second book was released two months ago with the next one to follow soon and three more to be released at regular intervals.
Inspiration to write comes from people. I watch people, I listen to people, hear their hopes and desires, see their differences and how this influence their way of interacting with each other. In my writings I try to illustrate these issues best I can.
There are more than one memorable moment in my writing career. The first highlight was holding my first book in print in my hands, the second was seeing my second book appear on the prime catalogue of Smashwords and five years later on Amazon. The best moment of all was the day when a hundred books of "My Father's Will" was delivered to my house for the upcoming launch. Of course I also have to mention the newspaper interview that showed a photo of me holding my book; big highlight.
The target reader I aim to reach is wide and all inclusive. Each book has a specific target group, but not excluding any other group. Let us say everybody older than sixteen and younger than hundred-and-twenty.
As a dedicated, committed follower of Jesus Christ, this is the image I want people, readers and fellow writers to have of me. For this reason also, my aim is to entertain in a clean and wholesome way. If one reader get something out of one of my books, something positive that he/she can take home and keep for the rest of his/her life, I will have reached my goal and my writing efforts will count for something.
Selfish energy harms, loving energy heals. It really is as simple as this statement, but recognizing the difference of the two is what’s tricky. You would think the differences would be obvious, and they may be if you’re truly awake, but that’s not the case because of the unawareness of most of just what a Conditioned Mind is. I know one can only see what is within, but very few have the willingness to look within to truly see what truth is; a story of truth is not truth. I love when someone says “we all have our own perception of truth” but what’s not understood is that’s the problem because there’s only one truth and this makes everyone have some kind of selfish agenda, even if it’s not seen in this way; the Conditioned Mind is diabolical. That’s where those who truly see differ as there’s no agenda attached to what is done. Very few people actually see how much selfish energy is in place and how much harm is really caused. It has been my experience that all arises from stillness and it doesn’t need my spin put on it.
A true instrument will simple do what’s in front of you. That’s the only time an instrument can be truly played; in the Now. If you want to be a true instrument, the Universe will have to do the playing. Even those attempting to put loving energy out into the world don’t see how that’s just a story. Very few truly see this. How one will know they’re stuck in this space is since everything arises from silence if one attaches a label associated with noise to the silence, they, not the Universe becomes the player of the instrument and this makes the instrument out of tune. The only way loving energy can be emitted out into the world is by allowing the silence of the Universe to play the instrument without one putting their conditioned selfish spin on it. It will be then that loving energy heals and selfish energy simply falls away.
If life is lived between the distinction of it being good or bad, whichever one is chosen they are really one in the same. Granted the outer behavior will be different, but the inner energy will be the same because both good and bad are a made up concept of the way one thinks life should be. Of course the Conditioned Mind loves the good and wants to push away what it considers as bad. Concepts lead to problems because they’re made up. It’s the reason I write as I do and why my writings are based in finding a true place within that doesn’t require a story or concept for there to be peace in your life. If you’re not at peace right now, ask yourself why. What do you think it would take to be at peace? More knowledge of spirituality, more money, better health, better job, better spouse, and the list goes on. The truth is nothing on the outside will make the inside better because why you think the inside needs to be better is an inside job which will only get better when it’s realized it’s already as good as it’s going to get.
Life isn’t a competition of who knows more about spirituality or who has more stuff, to me the only thing that matters is if I’m in my place within that doesn’t required a made up concept and story. Nothing else and I truly mean this, nothing else matters. To me life isn’t about anything, nor does it have to be. When the need arises to make it about something, instantly one is pulled from their place within and with it goes their peace. I know the Universe has done for me what I could never have done for myself, but it’s not a competition to be more spiritual than anyone else, it’s simply to find that place within which doesn’t require a story or concept to be peace and to remain there as much as possible.
Everything arises from the stillness of life, but it’s at that exact time that there will either be attachment to form or there will be freedom from it. This is the dilemma of life or at least it is for the one who see this. If it’s not seen you will just go on your merry way attached to form because there won’t be the awareness to not attach to it. You would think this would be a dilemma if it wasn’t seen, but since you don’t know what you don’t know, there’s no dilemma, at least to the one who doesn’t know. Unconsciousness is ignorance and although there’s no bliss in being ignorant, there is a certain innocence in not knowing what you don’t know. I suffered for years not knowing what I didn’t know, but now the suffering is so much less because of the awareness of what causes suffering.
Even though there’s so much more awareness of suffering, not only mine, but the suffering of others, I prefer this way as opposed to living in ignorance because it is in this exact moment that I am free. If you know the cause of something, it can be changed. If you just know there’s something causing you to suffer, but are not sure what it is, the suffering will most likely continue in one form or another. Know your own mind and don’t concern yourself with anything else. Break the chains to the attachment to form and you will know freedom. Or not and remain in bondage to the very thing that causes you to suffer. Everything arises from stillness, it’s at that time that there will either be attachment to form or there will be freedom from it.
Well personally I have been in love once and that feeling is certainly sublime and initially I used to feel fortunate and blessed, that my object of desire , is the best and there can be no one better than him. But, as time passed and you get embroiled in the daily rigmarole of the kids upbringing and the regular household duties, then you feel that love has fizzled out and monotony has set in.That is when Love seems to be a retribution, rather than salvation.
To be in love is certainly a feeling of belonging and being wanted, but it is an enriching feeling feeling, if from both the woman and the man feel it equally. But, if one of the partner loses interest in the other then the one who is still fully in love, for him love becomes a retribultion! A torture, which is unbearable.
Life moves on, as a family thrives on that bond and it is this bond which makes a foundation of an entire generation. But, if one of the partner, just goes on with the relatiionship with loss of interest, then the reltionship begins to rot and that makes the life of both partners, living hell!
Love a special bond, a trust, a faith, a delicate affectuionate feeling, which should be savoured and pleasured, every moment, but sadly a rotting relaationship, makes love extremely suffocating and frustrating. A sensible couple should understand the significance of their relationship and how their loving bond is the very basis of a flourishing family and a secure future of a happy family.
Love should be nurtured and and there should be a constant effort on both the sides to flower the bond to culmination, rather than sitting back and taking it for granted. Life becomes beautiful and worth living, when love happens to anyone, so rationality suggests that falling in love is just a start of an undying bond and there should be a constant effort to retain the freshness of this bond.
They say that the spark is missing and life is more like dull , drab routine, but I want to ask just one question to all the married or lovers, that, do you want to make that extra effort to retain the love of your life and let love be your nectar of existence, or do you want o lose it out and turn this etheresal feeling as a retribution?
There is an age old saying that love happens once and when it happens, it encompasses everything within its shield, so one should understand tht no matter how much time passes and no matter how much of boredom and monotony, tries to rot it, it is still remains strong as ever and it totally depends on the person, as to whether, they want to turn it into a retribution or a salvation.
Each day most of our waking hours are spent trying to arrange the day to our liking, the only problem with this is most of our day is wasted trying to arrange the day to our liking. This occurs because we have been conditioned to believe there is a self that needs things to be different. This conditioning keeps the mind addicted to this self which creates a constant state of agitation, and when the mind is agitated it will use whatever tools it has developed. Not so much to quiet the agitation, but more so to distract from it. The distractions in this case manifest as Conditioned Mind Patterns that are constantly trying to arrange life by using whatever it deems necessary to satisfy this false self.
If it wasn’t for the need to satisfy a false self, these cravings to want life to be in some other way which are caused by one’s own mind, wouldn’t exist. This agitation is the cause of the constant rearranging of life and it’s because of the false self needing life to be a certain way, but something would exist without the addiction to a this false self and that would be peace. The peace of just being because the addiction to the false self wouldn’t exist. If you don’t think this is true, it’s probably because of the addiction to the false self that’s not allowing your mind to settle so you can be aware of the peace that passes all understanding and go beyond the cravings brought on by the false self wanting things to be in some other way. Until this changes, nothing changes.
There are many things used that are put in the category of what addiction is, but what’s not understood about this is none of them have anything to do with addiction. I know not many people see this, but until they do, addiction will remain at the level of epidemic proportion. Why I say this is because what’s not addressed by the so called addiction experts is why a person needs to alter the way that they feel. That’s what’s at the root of addiction; the need to reach for something to fulfill a feeling of lack. That’s the true addiction, not the thing being reached for. If the feeling of needing to alter one’s current mind state was understood, then one could choose not to do it, but since it’s not understood, the reaching must commence once the feeling of needing to alter your current mind state arises. The true addiction is in the thought of needing the present moment different. If needing the present moment different was not the case, reaching for something would never occur. I know they are two parts to this, mental and physical, but the physical is only a secondary reaction to the mental. Before anything is reached for and actually used physically, the mental has to take a firm position that the thing is needed.
Nobody abuses drugs, takes a drink of alcohol, gambles, or gives into any desire without there being a need to fill a desire. Without having the thought of a desire one would be free of any addiction. You see it’s our thoughts that cause the actual problem; the fixated attention on a substance is secondary. If the addiction epidemic is ever going to stop, there will have to be a change of focus on to why there’s an epidemic in the first place. It’s because there’s a thinking epidemic in the world and it’s why the world is in such disarray. So much that’s done in our society reinforces this conditioned thinking that it keeps one reaching outside themselves to change the way that they feel. Until one understands there’s never a true need to change the way that you feel, addiction will remain at the level of epidemic proportion because the need to want the present moment different will be at the core of what one thinks about.
Some say there isn’t a choice to be made as to whether there’s discipline that allows for peace, but I have found this not to be so. Yesterday I was at the doctors office, I was filling out paperwork, the place was packed with over twenty five people who were there before me. It was moving very slow as I was there for over an hour. As I was waiting I was just watching all the distractions my mind was creating to divert from the moment, “This is ridiculous, I’ll come back another day, let me check my phone, let’s see what’s happening on FB, call someone, blaming the Doctors office for being incompetent, it certainly seems the longer one waits, the more the Conditioned Mind nonsense commences, but this nonsense only takes hold if one is unaware of it.
This is where the developed practice of discipline comes into play with the possibility of putting it into place instead of giving in to the mind agitations and being annoyed. Discipline has to be developed to keep one is the present moment, that is unless one is totally unaware of the present moment. This goes for everything, whether it’s traffic or the line in a store that causes the mind to become agitated, it only grabs you if there isn’t awareness of it, so instead of being in the nonsense, I can still be at peace even though the mind wants things otherwise.
Now granted this agitation initially arises on its own, but this is where the awareness of it comes in. Once it arises only with the necessary awareness will one be able to truly be with the agitated moment, which can then be replace with the discipline that has been developed. I was watching most of the people being distracted so they didn’t have to be in the moment. Since in each moment we can only have one thought at a time, the level of discipline developed determines if your thoughts grab you, and that’s what determines if you are free or if you are a puppet on a string.
People are constantly pressurised by the modern day relationship issues, daily stress of work and financial contraints and a number of other problems on a daily basis .When people find themselves caught in an emotonal crisis, due to some burdens of care and concern, then they try find ways to relax. Some go out for holidays, others listen to music, or read books or spend time with family and relatives, or go out for parties, but rareley do you find people, who try to sit back and relax and find peace within themselves.
Rarely, will you find people sitting down and contemplating and exploring their own faults and understanding life closely. It is this solitude, which actually gives peace and fufilment to any man. Those people who understand the significance of this solitude are never affected by outer disputes , or emotional disturbances.
Solitude has that charm and its own peculiar dignity, that it can be savoured, by only those those who actually feel it within. Peace and serenity which is constant and unshakeable. I have always been in a state of solitude, where my inner peace has been constant and the feeling is sublime!A conscious effort has to be made to achieve that solitude. Normally the daily rigmarole of frenzied activity, is so intense, that most of the people, dont have the energy to make an effort , to peep wihin thier hearts and find that space , where they will feel peaceful.
One must strive towards a feeling of peace and serenity and not keep running after looking for it outside. Most of the people these days are running towards having exotic holidays and then, they flaunt it with flashy pictures on Facebook and project a picture of their families having a blast, in extraordinary environs.But, little do they realise that all this is a superfical show of happiness is actually hollow within and if you ask me in reality, atleast six of the ten families, which are shown as really happy, are actually not happy! That is the stark truth, believe me!
So, the question arises, as to what is the reality? What is the truth? What is the need of a person finding his own peace? The need is very clearly pronounced.These days relationships are losing values and every person is racing against time, to achieve god knows what! At times I feel surprised when I see this rat race, which seems pointless to me, as I am a more laid back person, on a personal level, but when I see my close ones caught in this race, then I feel deeply sorry for them, as they dont know where are rushing and what they really want from their lives.
Solitude is peaceful zone , where one can sit back and contemplate, as to where is life taking them and then gear up for the future with a renewed strength. One must understand, that the more they run after materialistic things,the more they will be caught in a tangle and no matter what they will keep struggling all through their lives.
Life is so much more, than just haggling after small gains, personally or emotionally , or satisfying your ego, or achieving victory over others, in an emotional way. Life is about living in a state of solitude, wherin, there is no need of a second person, to complete you, you have yourself and that seems more than enough. So, we should all strive to find our space and relax when needed and not get caught in a whirlwind of activities, professionally or personally, to a scale, where one loses his inner peace!
Solitude is the ultimate serenity of your soul and only those who understand its signifance, live a complete life of salvation, with no dependence on anyone whatssoever and the best part is , that you dont pay for it. it is free of cost, you only have to dig within and you will be able to find it there strong and stable and constant, your very own peace.
After a time when someone isn’t physically addicted to something, the thing that makes one return to the reaching is the Conditioned Mind. There’s nothing physical that makes this occur. It’s called a relapse when this return occurs, but it’s not really a relapse, it occurs because the conditioning that makes a person need to reach for something in the first place is still in place. One may not even want to reach for the thing, but there isn’t much of a choice. A person can only do what they’re conditioned to do so when the conditioning changes to not have the need to reach outside yourself for fulfillment, one’s addiction will be no more.
If this is contingent on anything but the freedom from the bondage of a self that needs to reach, something else will be used as a substitute. Quietness needs to be developed to take away all substitutions, if not the reaching will continue; this is the mask of addiction. A mask is all that’s really ever developed because it shifts the dependency from one thing onto something else. Freedom can only be had when one is free of all masks. To be truly free there has to be freedom of all dependencies and you must be able to be with yourself (without a mask) just as you are, without the need to reach for anything to make you feel different. Remove the mask of the Conditioned Mind and see yourself as you truly are; a beautiful creation of the Universe that loves you just the way you are. The question is do you or do you wear a mask?
There is no other purpose to our existence, but to be an expression of love. It’s not to be anything else; love is who we are. One can make up a story of love to be some belief conjured up by the Conditioned Mind, but this isn’t loves energy, it’s yours. We are love and the base of our existence can’t be changed. It’s like an apple seed, it will always produce apples, and no matter what you do with the apple after it grows and ripens, its nature is always that of an apple. Whether its mixed with other fruit, crushed to make apple sauce, blended into a shake, used to make a pie, or just eaten, its nature doesn’t change, so it is with us regardless of what story we make up. It’s only the way the mind has been developed that makes us do anything that doesn’t have love as its base.
When the mind becomes quiet and the noise subsides, there’s a peace that comes over you that passes all understanding. In this peace there’s the realization that life is a manifestation of love and any thought that isn’t in alignment with this is only there because of the Conditioned Mind. One is always of love, one cannot not be, but the awareness of this is mostly blocked. Learn to remove the blocks and be in alignment with love so can be the instrument to plant seeds of love wherever you go. Be very still so you can be sure they’re the seeds of love that are being planted and not self serving seeds. An interpretation of love is not loves interpretation of love. In quietness all truth is revealed, but not because it comes from a book or a conjured up Conditioned Mind thought, it’s revealed because it comes from love and that’s the truth.